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She Comes First

Written by Ian Kerner

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'There are some fantastic books out there that men should read ... It really worked' Coleen Nolan, ITV's Loose WomenDid you know that the clitoris has 8000 nerve endings, twice as many as the penis? Here is everything you've wondered about the female orgasm and how to make it happen. A witty, well-researched and revealing guide to giving your lover an orgasm every time. More than just foreplay, Ian Kerner argues that oral sex is the key to a great sex life for both partners. Short sections cover philosophy, technique, step-by-step instructions and detailed anatomical information, essential to both beginners and experienced lovers.'It's time to close the sex gap and create a level playing field in the exchange of pleasure, and cunnilingus is far more than just a means for achieving this noble end; it's the cornerstone of a new sexual paradigm, one that exuberantly extols a shared experience of pleasure, intimacy, respect and contentment. It's also one of the greatest gifts of love a man can bestow upon a woman.' Ian Kerner

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  • about 4 hours
  • beginner
  • Informative
  • Empowering
  • Practical

Ian Kerner's 'She Comes First' is a groundbreaking and practical guide dedicated to demystifying the female orgasm and empowering men to prioritize their partners' pleasure. Championing oral sex as the cornerstone of a fulfilling sexual life, the book combines witty prose with well-researched anatomical information and step-by-step techniques. Kerner argues for closing the 'sex gap' by fostering a new sexual paradigm built on shared pleasure, intimacy, respect, and contentment. It serves as an accessible resource for both beginners and experienced lovers seeking to enhance their sexual repertoire and deepen their connections.

“Did you know that the clitoris has 8000 nerve endings, twice as many as the penis?”

Key themes

Female Sexual Pleasure and Orgasm
This is the central theme, exploring the mechanics, importance, and facilitation of female orgasm, particularly through cunnilingus. The book aims to educate and empower readers to prioritize and achieve this consistently.
Sexual Equality and Respect
The book advocates for a 'level playing field' in sexual pleasure, addressing the historical imbalance where male pleasure often takes precedence. It frames the act of giving pleasure as an act of respect and mutual consideration.
Intimacy and Connection
Beyond the physical act, the book emphasizes that prioritizing a partner's pleasure fosters deeper emotional intimacy, trust, and connection within a relationship. Shared pleasure is presented as a pathway to greater contentment.

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